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by Pete Ferguson

I recently attended a workshop on diversity in the workplace. It was actually specifically for Women in the workplace, so as one of a minority of men, it was a bit uncomfortable to be honest, but I've found personal growth only happens when I push my comfort zone.

One of the speakers, also male, asked the question, "what's on your tape?" For those born in the last twenty years, the very first computer "disk drive" I every used was actually a tape cassette. What this leader was asking is what have you been preconditioned to do?

He went on to illustrate that early on in his career as a leader, he would schedule early morning meetings, and sometimes put together team golf outings on weekends.

He was well meaning of course, but the point of his illustration of his "tape" or programming is that he was thinking of what people like him would want to do. He didn't think about how early morning meetings affected single mothers on his staff. He also didn't think about how those who didn't like golf felt about devoting part of their weekend - family time - to a game they didn't particularly care for or felt very uncomfortable playing because it was not one of their talents.

His point was that as long as he assumed everyone else thought like he did and liked the things he did, he was unknowingly prejudice against others.

Another example, if you are right-handed, you are likely very comfortable in the world you grew up in - as I am. Scissors, the old school desks, eating arrangements at a table, [golf clubs] etc. are all very well suited for a right-handed person. So unless I have a good friend or family member who is left-handed, I will never give the slightest thought about how my world is discriminatory against another.

Any code of your own that you haven't looked at for six or more months might as well have been written by someone else. - Eagleson's law


Introspection of internal thought continually can drive you mad, but intentional periodical review of the scripts which you have inherited is a healthy process of continual progression.

What scripts have you been handed that need to be rewritten?

 

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Comment by Peter A Ferguson on February 19, 2013 at 8:11pm

Ann and Caroline, thinking about what we think about is dizzying this time of the evening. But we also know that where our heart is, the body will follow! I will do a future blog on this subject. Another piece of advice given is when we are unsure of how someone fits in, just ask them: Ann and Caroline, what is it like to be a Christian woman in the workplace? Or what is it like being a woman in your field. 

Listen, learn, live. 

Pete

Comment by Caroline Gavin on February 19, 2013 at 10:51am

Pete, thank you for illustrating how our programming can prevent progress if not periodically reviewed. The examples of early morning meetings, weekend golf outings and right-handed arrangements show clearly that our scripts require evaluation and modification. As Ann wrote, we need to think about what we think about!

Comment by Ann Musico on February 19, 2013 at 7:41am

"Introspection of internal thought continually can drive you mad, but intentional periodical review of the scripts which you have inherited is a healthy process of continual progression."  That's a very powerful truth Peter - we are all preconditioned in certain ways and don't give those things a second thought.  I agree periodically thinking honestly and carefully on our self-talk and internal scripts is a very good idea.  I think we have to be aware that most of what we consider "thinking" is just reviewing the previous programming - so we have to truly think about what we think about - if that makes any sense!

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