“I’ve drawn a line in the sand. I’m quitting this job at the end of the year, come hell or high water.”
“This is absolutely the last time I’m working a holiday season.”
“I can’t take the stress any more. I’m retiring at the end of the school year.”
Have you heard or said any of these things? I’ve heard all of them from clients, friends and acquaintances. What do they all have in common? They are all about leaving something behind (and that can be a good thing) but none of them are about moving toward something.
And maybe you’ve heard that if you don’t know where you are going… you are likely to end up somewhere else.
Or as Jim Rohn said, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
I recently received a referral for a client who was letting all her friends know that she was definitely quitting her job at the end of the month and was looking for direction and prayers for the future. While I applaud anyone for being decisive and moving on from a situation that has become stagnant, stressful or even unbearable, I also caution clients to use all that energy to plan and create an action plan around what comes next. Otherwise, you may just fall back into something else equally challenging and frustrating in order to make a paycheck.
Brain research has shown that we are naturally wired to focus on the negative. Rick Hanson in his book, Hardwiring for Happiness explains that our brains are like Velcro for negative and Teflon for positive. When we are focused on what we want to leave behind, we are focused on the negative. To be successful though, we need to instead envision what we want for our future.
Most of us have fleeting ideas of what we ideally want in our lives but those thoughts remain fleeting and unattainable because we don’t take the time to gain clarity, create a vision and an action plan. Take the time to turn dreams into reality by creating your vision for the future, not just leaving behind the past.
Want to join me in creating a vision for your future? I’m hosting the first ever Dream Board Workshop!
Read all about it here: Create Your Life- Dream Board Workshop