Through the course of her own growth and development (bumps, bruises, false starts and all), this much she understood: life conditions don’t change by wishing they would or by debating with God that they should, her willingness to move into action, was necessary.
As Jill wove together a plan that, at its essence, would blend together meaningful work and a fulfilling life, she made a simple, subtle, self-administered distinction that moved her in a deep way – she changed her shoulds into musts.
And, while a passer-by would most likely have trouble seeing how a quick two-word adjustment could change anything, to her, it changed everything – her mindset, her commitment, and her energy level.
Play with this idea for minute. You’ll find it, like Jill, to be surprisingly powerful.
We all live in a world of shoulds - I should go to church. I should eat better. I should sign up for the next dance class. I should spend more time with my family. The list can go on forever.
The problem with stacking one should on-top of another, is that people, with the best of intentions, often end up shoulding all over themselves.
Jill moved past the shoulds she and others imposed on herself, and made a decision about the musts that had to happen, for her to live the life she wanted. (If you’re interested, I’m delighted to share her musts). As you can imagine, it was a freeing experience.
Jill did that for herself and you can too.
When talking about your possibilities and potential, do you tend to lean on the word should too often?
In your experience, is it empowering or discouraging to hold yourself up to an ever-growing list of shoulds?
What shoulds are you ready to let-go of, once and for all?