There has been something I've been ashamed and scared to say out loud: I'm over-weight.

More than that, I have never been able to tell anyone how much I actually weigh. I hope by me getting over my pride that this will help someone: I weigh 333 pounds. It makes me cringe to even write that number!

Here the one silvering lining, I lost 6 pounds last week, Yeah!

Two years ago I weighed 332 pounds and I made every excuse in the book why I gained the weight: the stress of a job I hate, the stress of raising a family, depression, my love of food and one thousand other reasons.

It wasn't until I was the best man at my brothers wedding and I saw myself in the wedding pictures before I realized how far I had fallen. When I saw those pictures, all I could do was cry.

I got fed up enough to do something about it and I started working out for 4 hours a day, and only ate one meal a day. I lost 132 pounds in 6 months.

Here's the problem: I didn't really learn the more important lesson than actually losing the weight, I didn't learn how to truly change. After the weight was gone, I was proud and told myself I could ease up a little bit, and I did.

It started slow at first, eating sweets, and hitting the gym a little less. Then it started spinning out of control, since I didn't truly learn how to change my eating habits, and change my life, the weight kept getting added on.

One year after I lost the weight I gained it all back plus 7 pounds. I wasn't worried though because I bought into the secret enemy of change: I've done it before and I could do it again.

I would tell myself that I would start hitting the gym again, start dieting again and I could lose the weight no problem. My wife would gentle bring up the issue and friends would try to encourage me but I assured them that tomorrow was going to be the day I started on the journey again.

So here I am, one more year later with the weight still here. The difference is I'm awake, I can see the truth and the truth is just because I did it before doesn't guarantee I can do it now.

The only way to truly change is to take action and keep taking action. The way to truly change is to admit the truth, to realize that you will fall and that the most important thing to do is pick yourself back up.

Once you've made those changes and have achieved your goals, you can't get too relaxed, when you start reverting back you can't buy into the lie that you can easily do it again.

I lost 6 pounds last week, I haven't had any soda or junk food in my system for two weeks now and my body fells amazing. I now know how to truly change my health and when the weight comes off this time, you better believe I'm not relaxing, I'm going to push ahead!

As you get victories in your battle for change, realize the truth and keep your eyes wide open to the dangers of going backwards, learn to do what I didn't.

As a matter of fact, let's do this together!

Are you with me? Are you committed to claiming the life you truly deserve?

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Comment by Ann Musico on October 4, 2012 at 6:16am

Oh Kimanzi good for you!!!  You learned something most people who need to lose weight never seem to learn - in fact I have clients that get so discouraged by how long it will take them to lose the weight they never follow through.  The truth is losing the weight is just the tip of the iceberg so to speak!  Once you've lost the weight it is a life long effort to maintain it - and that is not just for you or anyone who must lose weight, it's for all of us!  That's why losing it in a very restrictive way instead of changing your habits and mindset always end up failing.  I congratulate you on taking this HUGE step - it is difficult to speak these truths to people, but you did it and that is the first step.  As Dr. Phil says, you can't change what you don't acknowledge - and you have done that.  I have confidence you will be able to succeed this time!  You may find some helpful thoughts in my blog which is part of my coaching with my clients.  I wish you ALL the best!  God bless you.

Comment by Karen Putz on October 4, 2012 at 4:44am

Kudos to you for the honesty and the commitment to change!  In January, 2010 I shared my own weight loss commitment on my blog. I was scared because I had never publicly admitted my weight struggles.  I wanted a lifestyle change, not a weight loss remedy. For the most part, I made a lot of great changes and the weight came off. http://www.thatsfit.com/2011/02/07/karen-rediscovered-her-passion-a...  Then after I had surgery over the winter recently, I found myself slipping into the old habit of reaching for food for comfort. That's the tough one for me. So I'm learning once again to be aware and get back to those good choices. I'm committed with you!

Comment by Seth Haigh on October 3, 2012 at 10:47pm


I think you're hitting on one of the ultimate truths of sustained success when you say, "The only way to truly change is to take action and keep taking action."

It reminds me of a post I've kept in draft for a few months because it is too contentions as it is right now. It talks about key differences between the "haves" and "have-nots".

The similar part in my post hits on how people succeed because they truly make up their mind to succeed...and then they make that same decision over and over again every time the hit failure, every time they have some progress, and every time nothing changes, and every time the goal they reached slips away for a while. 

You might be interested or get ideas from these inspirational post: Finding Inner Strength,  Living on Purpose, How to Change Your Life, & Change ...unstoppable force?  

Good luck and send me a note how you do toward losing another 6lbs next week seth@managetogrow.com

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