Recently I wrote about the importance of slowing down. If you missed it you can read it here
Wouldn’t it be good to understand what caused you to do all this rushing around in the first place? If I asked you why all the rushing, you might say things like:
But those answers only scratch the surface. When we look deeper, we almost always find the real issue is not setting boundaries effectively. Some possible ways this happens are:
Today I will focus on the first one: Saying Yes to nearly everyone and everything. It often ties in to the second and third reasons.
When you say Yes to nearly everyone and everything, what do you get?
Bad things. So, why is it so difficult to say No?
Because No tests relationships. When you tell someone No, there are 3 possibilities, the relationship:
Two of the three we don’t want. But by saying No more effectively, you increase the chances that the relationship will come out unscathed.
A key to a happy life is knowing when to say No and how to do it effectively
When someone asks you to do something, there are 2 common traps:
Ironic, isn’t it? If you rush into giving a Yes, then that Yes creates more rushing. Instead, slow down the conversation by saying something like:
I am sure there are many other possible replies, but you get the idea. What have you found helpful in saying No more effectively?