Introducing Fatherhood Fridays, and Seth

“A boy needs a father to show him how to be in the world. He needs to be given swagger, taught how to read a map so that he can recognize the roads that lead to life and the paths that lead to death, how to know what love requires, and where to find steel in the heart when life makes demands on us that are greater than we think we can endure.” 
― Ian Morgan Cron

Introducing Seth Parker Seigmund, my son. He was born this past Tuesday, very early in the morning. In the moment I saw him and heard his voice for the first time, he has forever changed my life.

I am a father.

So, I've decided that every Friday, this space will be held for what I am calling Fatherhood Fridays. I'll be sharing with you my growth, along with his. This is a big deal to me, because suddenly, I am truly completely responsible for someone other than myself.

Allow me to explain what I mean. When I met my wife, and we became hitched, I knew I was responsible for many things with her. But, she was already completely capable of living a life without me. With Seth, I get to care for him, feed him, hold him, clean him up. But it means so much more.I am new to this whole fatherhood thing, and I myself have much to learn.

I get to take care of him and teach him, but only for a small amount of time. My real job is to be not only his father, but a steward. You see, even though I am his father, I realize that he isn't really mine. He is my gift from God, and he will someday be a man of his own. He has to be able to make decisions, choose his actions, and become a man.

My responsibility is to give him the best of me, and hope that the worst does't transfer to him. I get to teach him about life and the world. I get to teach him who God is, and to love Him.

I get to teach him right from wrong.

I get to teach him how to tie his shoes and ride a bike.

I get to teach him how to do good work, and to keep his word.

I get to teach him to love and respect his mother, along with all other women.

I get to teach him that actions have consequences, and that we must stand by our choices and take responsibility.

I get to teach him how to be strong and tough in a world that wants to beat him down.

I get to teach him how to be a warrior, and stand up for those who can't.

I get to teach him about driving, sailing, motorcycles, and all things barbecue.

I get to teach him about women, both the good, and the bad. Not all pretty things are...

I get to teach him to respect someone, even though he doesn't have to agree with them.

I get to teach him about camp fires, rock climbing, and about the whistle of a ducks wings when it is about to land on water.

I get to teach him to be a good steward with what he is given, money and otherwise.

Because I pray that someday, he will be teaching a son of his own the same things.



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Comment by Rick Seigmund on August 13, 2012 at 10:06am

Thank you both Laura and George. I am learning every day that each moment is a gift, and that I just don't know much. He is my pride and joy. Thank you again.

Comment by Laura Headley on August 10, 2012 at 10:41pm

Welcome to the world, Seth. You are obviously in good hands with a father like yours. Rick- congratulations. I've heard that the "days seem long, but the years go by fast" and my own baby girl is now 13- it has been a blur. Every stage, every minute is precious. Parenting is the most selfish and selfless thing I've ever done- selfish because of what I get from being mom and selfless for what I've learned I will give for another. What I've learned? BE PRESENT IN THE MOMENTS THAT SEEMS SO SMALL, for that is where the memories are made- the soft baby smell at bedtime, the sky above Seth when he runs for the first time, the sound of his squealing laugh when you push him on the swings...impress those moments in your memory along with a million others. Wishing you and your sweet family abundant blessings with this new life.

Comment by George Madison Potts on August 10, 2012 at 2:59pm

Hi Rick,

Congratulations on being a dad.  Even though I don't know you, I do know it is one of the most important jobs you will ever have.  It sounds like you are off to a great start.  As a dad of 24 and 21 year old sons I will share with you a little bit of wisdom learned from experience.  Know that you are going to make all kinds of mistakes.  Even though you put all of your heart into being a great father you will at times, be unreasonably angry, be too lenient, not see what your child's gifts, have unrealistic expectations for your child, etc.  Get the point?  You will make mistakes.

However, the good news is that you are there for your child and that will make all the difference in their happiness and success.  Enjoy brother, enjoy.  God is great!  Blessings to you, your son, and all your family.

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