This is a reprint of an original blog I posted from October of 2011. Since Dan's recent blog about marriage and entrepreneurship came out, I thought I would re post this. It is similar in that it talks about marriage and business success...
We all know of business men and women who are revered and even idolized for the apparent success they have achieved in their particular field. They can make millions of dollars and do great things for the community or even the world. They have great influence on thousands and maybe even millions of people. What people deem as success in business cannot be determined by the size of someone’s bank account, community impact or even the amount of influence they may have in the world.
We can look to well known business people, celebrities and politicians and see that no amount of money, fame and even the giving of millions of dollars to worthwhile causes is a barometer of true business success. How do we know if someone is really successful in business? The answer is quite simple – ask their spouse (or family). Would what they say match the public’s perception.
There is most certainly a strong connection between someone’s home life and business life. Ask Tiger Woods how his business is doing since his home life crashed. Ask Mel Gibson how life is going for him right now. Ask Frank McCourt, former Los Angeles Dodgers owner, if his family life had any effect on his business life. You cannot separate success in your home from success in your work. “What good is it for a man to gain the world, yet lose his soul?” (Mark 8:36)
The long-term success of your business can never rise above the level of success in your home. How many people experience complete business and financial ruin because their marriage and family were neglected? I am sure you all know of once prominent business people in your local area who have lost it all due to the failure in their own family life. Everything ‘looked’ wonderful on the outside, but behind the scenes everything was really falling apart at the seams. The success they achieved in their business was fleeting and just a flash in the pan.
The Bible gives the qualifications for leadership (pastors and deacons) in the church. Though these qualifications are directed at leaders of the church, there really is no difference in being a leader of a church or a leader of a business. 1 Timothy 3:4-5 tells leaders to make sure their house is in order. I am not saying anyone has to have the perfect marriage and family life – it is not possible. (God knows if perfection is the standard…I am toast!) Perfection is not the point of this passage. The point is to give as much attention to your marriage and family as your business - make it a priority. Would your spouse or family honestly call your personal life a success? Do you want your business success to be just a flash in the pan, or one that lasts for generations? If it’s not working at home…it’s not working in business