Since my wife and I met, we have been through years on out of joy and growing as a beautiful family together, but there’s another side… We have also witnessed a deep struggle with trying to make our lives work, and like most people there are those trying questions that come up, “Is this struggle ever going to end? Will I ever be able to tell my wife one day, that she’ll never have to worry again? Will I be able to give my children the life and joy they deserve?”
Those are some heart breaking questions when you’re in the thick of it, and was the hardest part of our growth. We were always quick to blame it on lack of financial resources, or senseless squandering; a big reason why my first business crashed, and I took on a heavy debt load.
Thanks to Tim Ferris for pointing this out in his book The 4-Hour Workweek, I read a quote the other day by French Poet Jean Cocteau which brought an incredible new light to me on what most people are really struggling with, and its not lack of finances. This hit me like a ton of bricks, “that’s it!”
Cocteau says, “You have comfort. You don’t have luxury. And don’t tell me that money plays a part. The luxury I advocate has nothing to do with money. It cannot be bought. It is the reward of those who have no fear of discomfort”
So there you have it. It’s not lack of money that holds us back. It’s our grasp on the idea that we “need” to live comfortably. That need for comfort takes our heart away the things that really matter in our lives. Our true values are the things that money can’t buy; such as my family, my wife and children.
There are many success stories of millionaires that went from rags to riches not due to sudden wealth, but their ability to embrace the true meaning of life, and without the need for comfort. These millionaires and billionaires are millionaires and billionaires today because their luxuries came from within.
When you let go of this idea as a need, you’ve opened your hands, and you’ve opened your heart. The closed fist or the international sign for anger doesn’t let anything in or anything out. The closed fist grips the security blanket hard, because it doesn’t want to be uncomfortable. But if you open your hands, you’ve opened the door to true freedom. I believe at that point more riches will then begin to pour into your life like you wouldn’t believe.
Let go of the need to be comfortable, and sink your heart and invest your life into the things that money can’t buy. For me, it’s the ones I love. They can’t be replaced. They are my heart, even if we ever lived in a box, they are still my heart.
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"Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." ~Howard Thurman