A counseling professor told a woman in one of Larry’s lab groups, “Your tears don’t move me.” His words stunned the group, but the woman stopped crying. “Those were tears of frustration,” he explained. “They weren’t tears of brokenness.”
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I’ve thought of that many times when someone’s tears haven’t moved me and wondered what was behind them. Crocodiles shed tears when they eat their prey, but not from regret or sorrow. Some people use tears to manipulate. Others use flattery. If that doesn’t work, they pout or explode to get us to follow their script.