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Even though it is only September, you can see the holidays rolling inexorably towards us. Thanksgiving decorations are already appearing in the stores, and the Miller's annual Christmas Open House has been scheduled. 

While you may give of your time, talent and money year round, the requests and needs tend to ramp up over the next few months as the holidays settle in for the season.

This is a great time to do a personal giving check. Are you a cheerful giver, or have you become resentful? 

 

Giving is something you love to do. You give of your time, your money, and yourself.

This is a wonderful thing, as you love to bring joy to those you care about.

Whether you realize it or not, every time you give, you set the bar and pay a price. This may go exactly as planned, or you may have set your sights on a bridge too far.

Company for dinner? You spend a whole day cooking a gourmet meal fit for a king, from amazing appetizer to delectable dessert, served with a side of indigestion and weight gain.

Family for holidays? You clean and prepare for days, and then become a one-woman wait-fest, followed by a major crash from the stress and the effort.

Christmas gifts? You plan and plot for weeks to purchase a marvelous mountain of presents, only to  be crushed by credit card bills.

I am not saying that every occasion for giving ends this way. However, I have heard too many times from women who are just feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, and resentful because of their giving.

It does not have to be like this. There is a better way that will leave you a more joyful giver.

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Comment by Kim Hall on September 30, 2012 at 8:45pm

Thanks, Kathy! I have been too much of Martha myself, so I hear you on that !

Comment by Kathy on September 30, 2012 at 6:27pm

Kim,

Truly a wonderful post! I think I was and to some extent still am often frazzled by the presentation end but recently I had a friend tell me, "No one is coming to see your house, or your business...they are coming to get to know YOU! and I realized it's hard to get to know me if I am not available to enjoy their company b/c I am just too busy "taking care of all the stuff" (sort of like Martha instead of like Mary :>(

Really enjoyed your post.

Comment by Lisa Graham on September 27, 2012 at 6:58pm

Oh cool, Kim!  Feelings and relationships....that is what matters!  

Comment by Kim Hall on September 27, 2012 at 3:57am

Well said, Lisa! Glad you enjoyed the little nudge!

Your point reminds me of watching some of our old home movies from Christmas' past. I saw the old house with the tired and worn furniture, clutter, and certainly a home that could have used more cleaning and a big facelift. (There were 7 kids, after all, with pets, in the house!) I was surprised when I watched these for the first time in decades. I don't remember the house like that. What I do remember, clearly, sharply, and correctly, was the love, the humor, and the good times. 

Comment by Lisa Graham on September 26, 2012 at 9:12pm

Oh Kim, great post!!  No one will remember how the house looked, etc but they will remember if they had a good time!

Thanks for the reminder! 

Comment by Kim Hall on September 26, 2012 at 1:45pm

We must be related. Not only do we tend towards great exuberance, but who knew spic and span houses were not a first love and priority for us either? :-)

Thanks for reading and your kind words!


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Comment by Jen McDonough "The Iron Jen" on September 26, 2012 at 12:57pm

Kim, great post! Yes, I am all about scaling down to intentionally focus on the things that matter most to me. My priorities for having a spic and span house do NOT fall into my top priorities, however, relationships definitely do. No matter how much we try, we can't be Super Woman/Man. 

Many thanks for the great reminder my friend.

Live Beyond Awesome.

Jen

Twitter: @TheIronJen

Comment by Kim Hall on September 26, 2012 at 8:38am

The scaling down can be so hard! I imagine your company is very grateful for this change, as it means they get to spend more time with you!

We, too, struggle with the too much food for our very large family. When they all go home, there has always been way, way, way too much left over. Last year was better, however, and I am working on making more progress this year, stressing to my mom how much more fun it is to have time to enjoy the company rather than spending it in the kitchen before, during, and after.

Comment by Ann Musico on September 26, 2012 at 8:22am

Kim a perfect post for this time of year especially as we are getting ready to prepare for all the holidays.  House cleaning isn't my forte - so I could probably benefit from doing better - but I love to cook and bake and while that is a joy for me, I have learned to scale down my efforts and focus on the people I am entertaining and enjoying our time together.  Awesome!

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