Life can be a challenge. That is a fact. Finding the good in every moment should not be a challenge. It should be second nature. Unfortunately, us humans are not always so good at this concept of seeking out the good while ignoring the not so good. Placing emphasis on the positive and eliminating the negative can be quite a chore.
While coaching folks traveling the journey of dementia, I try to help them clearly see what they have going for them. Dementia is no walk in the park. Let’s look, though, at some of the good things in life. For example –
Do you have friends and family who understand what is going on in your life? If so, be thankful.
When you last met with your diagnosed loved one, could you bring a smile to their face? If so, be thankful.
Is your loved one able to feed his/herself? If so, be thankful.
Is your loved one able to toilet his/herself without assistance? If so, be thankful.
Does your loved one recognize hunger and thirst and respond appropriately? If so, be thankful.
Can you depend on your loved one to be “socially acceptable” in all situations? If so, be thankful.
Are you able now to see there is so much in life for which to be thankful that you might have ignored previously? If not, we need to talk. Even if your loved one cannot successfully accomplish the items listed above, you still have much for which to be thankful.
The point to be made is simple. Look for the good. Whether we are looking for the good in this life situation called dementia or looking for the good in our personal, professional, family, church or neighborhood life, it is important we seek that way of living. If you are looking for the good, you will see the good. Wonder if the opposite is true? Hope that gives you “Something To Ponder”.