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 “He teaches kindness by being thoughtful and gracious even at home. He teaches patience by being gentle and understanding over and over. He teaches honesty by keeping his promises to his family even when it costs. He teaches courage by living unafraid with faith, in all circumstances. He teaches justice by being fair and dealing equally with everyone. He teaches obedience to God’s Word by precept and example as he reads and prays daily with his family. He teaches love for God and His Church as he takes his family regularly to all the services. His steps are important because others follow.” — Author Unknown

I hope I can in some way live up to that. My son Seth is just over a week old. It has been a fantastic and sleep deprived week for myself and my lovely wife.

More for her than me.

So, what has this week been like?

  • The dog and cat don't care much for the boy. His hunger roar seems to be pet repellant.
  • I love having my wife home from work. Everyone's happier when she is around.
  • Diapers can be tricky.
  • I get peed on now.
  • He has my wife's eyes and nose, my ears and feet. He also has my temper. God help us!
  • My favorite thing is our hangout time. He sits on my legs for about an hour each morning and he and I just hang out. It is amazing when this little boy smiles at me, and studies my face!
  • Our lives have become much simpler. Our social schedule has dropped off to almost nothing, and it's great! We are much more on a natural rhythm around here. There's probably something to this...
  • We do a lot of laundry.
  • My sense of urgency and need to be productive is going through the roof. That's a good thing. I am able to stay much more focused on the tasks at hand now. Says a lot for motivating factors, eh?

This biggest revelation came unexpectedly though. Yesterday afternoon, one of my neighbors stopped me to talk. He lost his grown son the night before. His boy passed away in his sleep, and his roommates called their home that morning. My friend was shaken to his core.

Without getting into details or giving any inappropriate info away, their son had chosen a very hard life. I am suspecting this was the result of a lifestyle. My friend's pain was, and is still palpable and raw. He and his wife never, ever gave up on their boy. Theirs is a hard and sad road now. I will be walking through it with them when I can.

That night, this dose of reality really hit me about our boy. There are no guarantees in this life. Well, just one, it will end someday. I will try to do my best. I will try to raise him the best way I know. I will fail, stumble, disappoint, and falter. I know this, because that is reality. My son will someday make his own choices, and there will inevitably be some that I don't like.

I won't be able to change that. All I can do is make my stand, and be my best. Flaws, bumps, bruises, scars and all. It's a scary realization. But, I'd much rather begin to face it now, that to be blindsided by it when it happens.

So, my fatherhood lesson? Love, and enjoy this moment and time. Armor up, and prepare myself for the battles ahead.

Fight the good fight, no matter what.

Be a friend to those in need.

 

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Comment by Rick Seigmund on August 20, 2012 at 12:39pm

Dan, Carol and Iron Jen!

Thank you all so very much for your kind words. Life is most definitely in 3-D now, and we are loving every last moment with him. God is great!


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Comment by Jen McDonough "The Iron Jen" on August 19, 2012 at 8:14am

Rick,

TRIPLE DECKER CONGRATS my friend. Seth is so dang cute!

My prayers are going out to your friend and his family...I can't even imagine the heartbreak they must be feeling. 

I use to think, BC (before children) and before being married that I would never let my heart be that exposed to something or someone. After all, couldn't you get hurt when one loved beyond measure? Well....after marrying my best friend and having our first child, I realized how wrong I was. 

Marriage has been awesome and getting to be a mom has been my favorite role God has blessed me with.

Yes, loving our kids beyond measure has hurt during times they proved to be human, but man the rewards are great. Life literally goes from 2D to 3D when one has kiddos. Life changing stuff.

Love your great attitude of preparing for better yet enjoying and loving this moment and time.

MANY blessings to you and your family Rick!

Jen

Comment by Carol Howell on August 18, 2012 at 8:39am

WOW!  What a fabulous blog.  Your heart just shines throughout all your writing.  You, my friend, will be a great dad!

Comment by Dan Miller on August 17, 2012 at 1:50pm

Rick - wow, what a thoughtful post.  Having a child certainly does open up parts of ourselves we never touched before.  Children can indeed bring the highest highs and the lowest lows.  But it's worth it all!  Enjoy your journey with Seth. 

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