48Days.NET

top page logo

Your place for community & resources to find or create work you love

We are so glad you're here and ready to take the next step! We created 48days.net as a place for community. For people to encourage each other and help each other in finding or creating work that is meaningful.

But frankly, we've outgrown it, so we're moving to provide you new resources.

48Days.net will be closing as it is today on November 30, 2017. Until then current members can click the button below to access groups and resources.

If you're new to 48days.net, connect here for a close up look at our thriving 48 Days Eagles Community and to get weekly free resources and motivation as you find and create work you love.

Hello!

I’m not good enough…

If they really knew me…

Everyone else does it better…

I’m not worthy…

We all have it.  The fear of being seen.  Not a fear of being seen in our latest contrived photo-shopped selfie on Facebook.  Not a fear of being seen in our latest story of  “I’m the greatest” as we rail on about the ailments of our society and how things would be different if we were in charge.  Instead, our fear of being seen is that primal fear that if someone really knew who we were at our core, not only would they know us at our worst, most vulnerable and most inadequate, they would reject us completely.  Our secret would be out. We would lose all hope.  So we spend our lives guarding our secret selves and never venturing into territory that would challenge the carefully crafted image we have created.  Sometimes we even manage to fool ourselves into believing we are not afraid.  

The problem is that so many of our dreams require us to be seen.  Want to start a business?  Nothing will ever challenge you more.  Want to become a writer, artist or follow some similar creative pursuit?  Ditto. Want to do anything new, challenging and risky like start a new career, relationship or project?  Ditto.  

So what’s the answer?  How do you put the dragon to rest?

Doubtbusters

Focus on action, not feelings–Many times our feelings trick us into believing things that just aren’t true.  Just because we feel nervous about trying something challenging, it is not a sign that we should avoid it.  In fact, many times feeling nervous is a good thing because it is an indication that we are stepping outside our comfort zone.  Give yourself permission to take action, imperfect action, regardless of your emotions.

Focus on positive self-talk, not negative self-talk— Our brains are like Velcro for negativity and Teflon for the positive so it is important that we learn ways to take charge of our thinking.  One way to do this is to pay attention to the messages that we are telling ourselves, evaluate those messages and change them to more realistic and positive ones.

Focus on measuring personal progress, not comparison to others–The comparison trap will lead to doubt and criticism every time.  We can always find someone who is better than we are.  By the same token, we can always find someone who is weaker as well.  Neither is beneficial for shoring up our self-confidence  Instead, learn to measure progress based on your goals and personal accomplishments. Pay attention to where you started and how far you have come.  

 

Thinking about Dream Achiever Coaching?  Do it now.  Be vulnerable and trust the process.  Don’t see this as a program but as a way to find out who you are and what you need and want for your own future.  I leave each call feeling validated, supported and more confident in my ability to solve my own problems and take my own next steps.  ~Heather Gill

Changing a limiting mindset means we get results because we move forward in our lives deliberately.

Ready to make a change?

Grab your spot for a complimentary coaching call here: https://bookme.name/dreamachiever

To Your Success,

Lynne Watts

Views: 15

Comment

You need to be a member of 48Days.NET to add comments!

Join 48Days.NET

Comment by Ann Musico on August 21, 2017 at 2:07pm

Learning to allow myself to take  imperfect action was a HUGE step for me. Great post Lynne.

Coaching Mastery Program

Interested in being a 48 Days Certified Coach?  Check out our elite program here:

Check it out!

Follow 48 Days:

Have a question or want to connect? Enter in some keywords here to see what we're already saying!

Interested in the next step beyond this community - with more hands-on interaction with Dan and other 48 Days Mentors? Check out our new membership site!

Weekly Podcast

Hosted by Dan Miller

Good stuff from 48days

Sign up for the FREE weekly 48 Days Newsletter HERE
Check out Dan's 
daily blog and 
free worksheets
Get the 48 Days App!


 


Have a question or want to connect? Enter in some keywords here to see what we're already saying!

 

© 2017   Created by Jon Dale.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service