Virtually everyone who’s ever attempted to lose weight looks at the process as something with a specific goal. And yes, you do need a specific goal you are working toward otherwise you won’t know when you reach it. It could be your dream body or your ideal weight. That specific achievement when you will have lost the weight and be…. Done! But the truth is – you are never really, totally “done.”
All aspects of life are constantly changing and evolving – all! Seasons change, our tastes change, we learn a new skill, children grow up, we meet new friends, we move to a new location with a different climate, jobs change, vacations end and school starts again. And this is a good thing. Old ideas, beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and things are discarded and replaced with new ones.
There is no such thing as a “perfect body.” Because we all have unique and different body types and there is no one type that is “perfect” – whatever that means. Just as there’s no one perfect husband, boss, child, friend. Your husband or wife may be perfect for you, but not for anyone else. And your personal “perfect” changes with time! What I thought was my perfect body at 25 is very different at 58. (And I actually like this one better!)
Instead of looking at the scale every day and thinking “I’m not there yet”—look at each decision about what to eat and what not to eat as part of a process which is enjoyable in its own right. Every meal is an opportunity to to consciously choose life and health and enjoy the process of making wise choices. It all comes down to the process of living in a healthy way and not the end result or achievement of the goal. Why? Because you will never fully be “there.” Once you achieve your goal – you have to maintain it! And that is a lifelong process – for every single one of us!
How can you frame your goal so that you don’t discourage yourself even before you begin?