Sometimes fear really has a strong hold on our lives, doesn’t it? I have to admit I’m often consumed and ruled by fear. And when your a parent its really not easy to put aside your fear and hope for the best. Fear keeps us from so much and really puts a limit on our lives and extinguishes our dreams. Because we are controlled by it, we make decisions based on the fear of what might happen.
As a parent, I find myself being overwhelmed by fear at times. And because I’m a single parent my fear is amplified. As a single father there is that moment every few days were I have to take him back to his mother and turn over the responsibility of his care to her. It’s not that I don’t trust her to take care of him, but what happens is I realize that I’m no longer in control. If something did go wrong, I wouldn’t be there to provide the rescue or I wouldn’t be there to prevent the danger. The lack of control puts fear in my heart and I then start to create all these worse case scenarios in my mind of what could be happening, and what might happen.
Can anyone relate to that?
Do you find yourself being controlled by your fear ?
What are you afraid of?
I’ve heard that the word F.E.A.R is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. And isn’t that the truth? How much of our fear is us simply having the “what if” conversation with ourselves? Now sometimes we have every rational right to be afraid. But most of the time our fear is driven by the simple realization that I am not in control.
God tells us over and over that we are not to have a heart of fear. We are to trust him. What I realize is that, when I’m sitting here trembling with worry about work, my health, or my child what I’m really saying is “God I don’t trust you to take care of this situation.” And the truth is, whether you believe in God or not, you are not in control. Life is happening. It’s happening to you right now. So don’t let F.E.A.R run your life and steal your joy. I pray every morning that my son whom I adore with all my heart will be safe and happy. I pray that he will be delivered back into my hands in one piece. And by the grace of God every week for the last three years, that is exactly what has happened.
So may you go out into the world today and not be filled with fear about the unknown future. But instead be filled with anticipation. Because maybe what’s around the corner is not another bad day or tragic event. Maybe what’s around the corner is change. And change is good.
by Shawn Ozbun