While we didn’t have a coaching session scheduled for that particular afternoon, through some force of nature, (Divine intervention, planetary alignment, El Nino, global warming, global cooling, or just dumb luck), there we were on the phone together.
Promising herself that she would continue to move forward with her dream of becoming a sought-after speaker, she had only a few days left to organize her thoughts and zero-in on the most important points she wanted to cover. And, the more excited she was about the opportunity, the shakier her nerves became, as the date loomed closer.
Unfortunately, she worked herself into a corner and was boxed-in by the knowledge she had and the value she wanted to provide.
Pinpointing where she was actually stuck, we went right to work. With a few strategically-placed questions in our quick conversation (10 minutes of real coaching time maybe), she found the clarity she needed immediately and the focus that kept her grounded and channeled.
Nicole from Kentucky joins us for today’s short podcast.
Reflection: Can you relate to Nicole? Is there a tug-of-war going on between your intellect and your emotions? Is it a tug-of-war or more like a civil war? Does your need to be perfect, keep you locked in place?
Here are two of the questions Nicole and I talked through, that helped her wiggle free from the grip she had put on herself:
Need better answers? Get better questions. Let us help.
As my friend John Miller says in his breakthrough book, QBQ, The answer is in the question.
Comment
Comment by Joel Boggess on August 13, 2012 at 8:07am Good morning Peter,
Always good to hear from you. Thank you for sharing your kind words.
An excellent book on the power of questions, and the right ones to ask is QBQ by my buddy John Miller. It's an easy read that's packed with value. Here's one of the podcasts we did together not to long ago. Definitely worth the quick listen.
p.s. Steal my analogies anytime. (LOL)
Comment by Peter A Ferguson on August 13, 2012 at 7:04am Joel, civil war is often a better description than a tug-of-war! Nice analogy.
The question is the key. There are many things going on at work today where people are too focused on solutions, without standing back and looking at what it is we are really trying to solve. I'm fortunate that I can be in a position to help frame the thinking and strategy instead of just piling on more band-aids.
The answer is the question. Thanks for the reminder!
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